Do you find yourself pulling away just as things start to feel close? Perhaps you notice the same patterns repeating in relationships, struggle with a quiet sense of shame of not feeling good enough, or feel disconnected from others — or from yourself — even when life looks fine from the outside.
Maybe anxiety has become something you've learned to live with, or you're carrying grief, loss or experiences from the past that still seem to affect how you feel and respond today.
Often, these patterns have their roots in our earliest relationships and experiences. Understanding where they came from, and how they continue to show up in our emotions, relationships, body and nervous system can be an important part of beginning to respond differently.
I'm Gemma, a BACP-registered integrative, attachment-focused therapist specialising in relational trauma. I offer a warm, compassionate space where we can explore the patterns and protective responses you've developed, while helping you build a greater sense of safety within yourself and more secure, fulfilling relationships with others.
Therapy isn't about changing who you are. It's about understanding yourself more deeply, processing what you've been carrying, and creating the possibility of relating to yourself and others differently.
If this resonates with what you're looking for, I'd love to hear from you. You can book a free initial conversation, with no obligation, to see whether I might be the right therapist for you.
Rather than applying one fixed method, I draw on a range of therapeutic approaches and tailor them to you, paying close attention to your relational patterns, the defences that once protected you, and the connection between mind and body, which is central to real, lasting change.
At the heart of the work is the relationship between us. I hold that space with empathy, warmth, and consistency, so you can show up exactly as you are, not as who you think you need to be. From there, we make sense of your past together, understand how it shapes the way you relate to the world now, and start shifting you out of survival mode and toward a life with more meaning, connection, and joy.
The relationship is central to my practice, which is why I offer a free 20-minute chat to potential clients. This initial conversation allows us to explore if I am the right counsellor for you. If you decide to continue, we can schedule your first session.
Relational Trauma & Attachment Wounds
Understanding how early and significant relationships shape how you feel, connect, and respond today, and supporting healing of relational trauma.
Attachment & Relationship Patterns
Exploring anxious, avoidant and disorganised attachment patterns, fear of rejection, abandonment and intimacy, and repeating painful relationship dynamics.
Relationship Difficulties
Support with trust, conflict, separation, reassurance seeking, emotional availability and recurring patterns in relationships.
People-Pleasing, Boundaries & Self-Worth
Understanding why you lose yourself, over-give or struggle to say no, and building self-worth and healthier boundaries in relationships.
Inner Child & Relational Wounds
Compassionately exploring unmet emotional needs, early experiences and the impact on your adult relationships, and developing a different relationship with yourself.
Attachment, Parenting & Family Relationships
Understanding how our own attachment experiences can influence parenting and family dynamics, and creating more connected, attuned relationships.
Relational Patterns at Work & Burnout
Exploring patterns such as perfectionism, people-pleasing and over-responsibility in the workplace, difficult dynamics, boundaries and stress, and supporting healthier, more sustainable ways of working.
Emotional Healing & Nervous System Regulation
Developing greater emotional safety, regulation and resilience when old relational wounds are activated, and supporting your nervous system to feel more calm, grounded and secure.
Becoming a counsellor has been rooted in my own personal experience. Growing up as an immigrant in Spain gave me an early, lived sense of what it means to navigate difference and hold multiple cultures at once. I grew up on insecure foundations, which have shaped my understanding of relational wounds. This isn't just something I understand professionally; it's lived experiences, and the journey I took continues to influence how I work today.
I began my career in mental health supporting families affected by domestic abuse and emotional difficulties, then trained and worked as a counsellor with Mind. I now run a private practice in Wimbledon (SW19) and Clapham (SW4), offering both short and long-term therapy for adults 18+, in person or online — wherever you're based.
There is current availability for in-person and online sessions.
If this resonates, I'd love to hear from you. Reach out for a free initial conversation, no obligation, to see if I'm the right counsellor for you.
Complimentary intro call (approx. 20 minutes)
£70 per session (50 minutes) — same rate from your first session onwards
I work Monday to Friday
I have slots ranging from 10 am to 8 pm.
There is current availability for in-person and online sessions.
